Must-have skill for children #4: preventing procrastination

According to data collected on studying habits, students who started studying two weeks before an exam scored an average of 95%. Students who started studying one week before scored an average of 81%. Students who started studying mere days before the exam scored an average of  71%. What does this tell us? It tells us how important a firm understanding of time management is for students. Parents believe procrastination is the root problem, but it is actually one of the side effects of poor time management and it is becoming increasingly pervasive. The American Psychological Association revealed that 80 to 95% of college students procrastinate. On top of that, the number of people who consider themselves procrastinators has increased from 4-5% in the ‘70s to 20-30% today!   To protect your children from this epidemic, you need to teach them at a young age the importance of time management. If they manage their time better, it is less likely they will procrastinate on tackling important tasks for school. This will also improve many other areas of their lives, such as… Perfectionism Contrary to belief, many people put things off because they have high expectations for themselves that they do not think they can actually meet. This is a sign of a debilitating characteristic known as perfectionism. However, good time management skills will make the task at hand more achievable. In particular, putting a task into a calendar and assigning it a time frame (such as 30 minutes) will get children moving just to get the task done. Less emphasis will be placed on the outcome. Prioritization Children will have to prioritize certain tasks depending on the importance and amount of time available. This is an important skill. Many procrastinators check off the easiest things on their to-do list, then call it a day with a false sense of productivity while the important things fester in the background. Children have to realize that if they do not get a start on that big project looming in the background that is worth half the semester grade, the little assignments they do along the way will not even matter.   On the other hand, if they only have 30 minutes between school and soccer practice, that would be the perfect time to schedule in that math worksheet they got for homework. Take advantage of whatever time they can find! Plan accordingly! Self-Care Having said that, it is important that children also know when to prioritize self-care. Time management is not only for productivity but also for making sure there is still fun in their lives. They will realize that when they have time to themselves, instead of wasting that time idly by scrolling on social media, they could take full advantage of it to unwind.   You know the saying “work hard, play hard”? Sadly, many children do not let themselves fully immerse in the fun part of their day; as a result, they do not immerse in the working part of their day, either. The whole time throughout, they are distracted, unfocused, and restless. Nothing gets done. They waste a lot of time this way by thinking or wishing they were at another point in time. When playing, they think they should be working. When working, they wish they were playing. Let them pencil in some time to fully play with no concerns and to socialize with friends. Managing time the right way will help them have fun when they can and to get things done when they need to. Timeliness Time is extremely valuable, even more so for how irrecoverable it is. Many people do not understand how much time a task will take, so instead of starting early, they put it off until they are overwhelmed by the task. They cannot get all that precious time back.   Help children learn that certain things require more time than others, such as reading a book or writing an essay. By managing their own times for tasks like these, children will learn how to better estimate and manage time for other big undertakings. It will also teach them to be reliable when it comes to meeting deadlines or people on time. Goals As previously mentioned in the Must-Have Skill for Children #3: Goal Setting, children need to take responsibility for whatever goal they want to reach--and they can do that by setting clear timelines. If they do not do this, they will never reach that goal because there will be no time constraints pushing them forward. It is not only about deadlines but also about getting something--even a little bit--done everyday that will get them that much closer to what they want. Setting aside portions of their schedule for a specific purpose, particularly long-term goals, is a huge part of time management. Self-Esteem Dr. Ferrari, a professor of psychology, once told American Psychological Association, “Non-procrastinators focus on the task that needs to be done. They have a stronger personal identity and are less concerned about what psychologists call ‘social esteem’—how others like us—as opposed to self-esteem which is how we feel about ourselves.” Managing time provides your children with better self-esteem in just this way. They feel more responsible for themselves and in better control of their lives, both of which result in confidence! == One tip for parents is to not take over children’s schedules but to trust them to build their own. Of course, children cannot be given full autonomy--especially from the beginning--but you could start to loosen up the reigns. You could set aside a certain period of time everyday for children to decide on their own schedules, as well as ask for their opinions. Another tip is to reward rather than punish children if they fail to meet a goal or deadline. Punishing will actually breed more procrastination and reluctance to use time wisely in the future. Highlight how much they did manage to accomplish and help them to adjust accordingly in the future to complete the same task. They need the experience to learn how much time they need for various activities; and therefore, they should not be punished for the learning process. Now that you know the importance of time management and how to go about helping children learn this must-have skill, your children are already one step closer toward mastering the JEI Self-Learning Method®. 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How you behave can prepare your child for kindergarten

Your children are ready to enter kindergarten-but like all parents, you have your concerns. How can you make sure your children are ready for this milestone? By monitoring your own behavior, especially when you are around them. Children at a young age are particularly observant and malleable. They learn about the world around them through analysis, so your behavior will be the one they will model their own behavior on when they enter society. This is particularly important early on when children are just developing their Emotional Quotient (EQ) and communication skills. So how can you make sure they are ready for kindergarten? Say “Please” and “Thank You” It is your responsibility to show children good behavior, meaning they should be saying all the correct things at the appropriate times. When they ask for something, they should include “please.” After receiving something, they should say, “Thank you.” Other phrases could be “excuse me” and “bless you.” The more you use these phrases, the more your children will emulate this and learn when is the right time to use them. Express Your Feelings It is important for children to develop their communication skills. Otherwise, it is difficult for teachers to understand their needs. They may not be comfortable expressing themselves at first, so show them how it’s done! Use phrases starting with “I feel…” and “I think…” and add in a variety of adjectives, like sad, happy, confused, and hungry. This will make children more comfortable with sharing their feelings and thoughts with others, as well as help them recognize what certain feelings are.   Recognize Others’ Feelings   Children may have a difficult time recognizing other people’s facial expressions and empathizing with how they’re feeling. Their EQ is still in its early stages. Show them to observe and understand by making note of how others feel. If one child is frowning, you can point this out to your other child with, “I think your brother is sad because you won’t listen to his story.” These hints will give them better ideas on how to read other people and behave accordingly. Socialize With Others A big part of kindergarten is learning to socialize with other children and adults on a daily basis. This can be new and frightening for young children, but you can make it seem normal by socializing with others in a comfortable and friendly manner. Chat with neighbors for a few minutes instead of rushing by in determined silence, which can leave a negative impression on your children. They may choose to ignore others the very same way in kindergarten. Show that conversing with others can be natural, not scary. Share With Others Sharing can be a big issue with young children. However, parents can show that sharing is caring not only by enforcing this with their children but also showing through their own actions. Ask the other parent to use something, like the remote to watch TV, and then that parent can respond positively by saying, “Of course!” or respectfully by saying, “Do you mind waiting until this episode is over?” Set a great precedent.   Read with Excitement Reading will be a big part of kindergarten. Children may feel uneasy or unready for reading aloud in a class full of peers, but parents can make reading fun! They can also prepare children for the more technical elements of reading aloud, like speaking in a clear, audible tone. They can achieve this by often reading aloud with their children and with enthusiasm. The positive reaction will rub off on their children who will exhibit the same energy in kindergarten. -- Of course, parents cannot be expected to be perfect, and neither can children. They can only do their best to enter society as positive participants! But if you follow the advice above, as well as giving them an academic head-start with JEI programs, your children will feel more ready for the exciting adventure that is kindergarten and beyond! To further develop your child’s education and EQ, find a center near you!

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Back to school lunches without the hassle

School is just around the corner, and that means no more raiding the fridge for last-minute lunch ideas. Lunches need to be quick to assemble, nutritionally complete, and last sitting in a lunch bag for a couple of hours. This can be tough, meeting all three of the criteria mentioned above, but it is not an impossible task! This past summer we created a list of easy meal ideas for summer lunches. With back to school season fast approaching, parents not only have to worry about packing a quick, nutritious lunch but how that packed lunch is going to impact their child’s day. Often times, children indulge in what parents have packed for them during the regular lunch period. Other times, they drool over what their peers have been packed whether that’s because it looks, smells, or tastes more delicious then what was packed for them. Some times, they don’t eat their lunch at all because they are worrisome of what their peers may say once they open their lunch box. That is why it is important to emphasize planning lunches ahead of time or even having your child involved in the lunch-making process. By doing this, it ensures those lunches are doing exactly what they need to be doing: nurturing your child mid-way through that long, exhausting school day. To take away some of the school year preparation anxiety, we have gathered together some unique ways your child can enjoy their lunch without any lunch-time anxieties!   Meal Prep - Turkey taco lunch bowl - Buffalo chicken meatball bento box - Build your own pizza - Meat and cheese pinwheels - PB&J triangles - Sandwich skewers - Tomato bruschetta 2 ways - Lettuce wrap box - Mediterranean box Prep for the Week - Egg salad - Tuna salad - Couscous salad - Banana bread - Energy balls - Pasta salad with fruit - Pesto pasta with tomatoes Night Before Snack Prep - Froyo fruit cups - Homemade chewy granola bars - Yogurt parfait box - Peanut butter protein box - Strawberry fruit rollers - Hard-boiled eggs - Sliced cucumber - Melons   - Mangoes   - Cheese and crackers No Prep Snacks - Cheese sticks   - Fruits and vegetables (i.e. bananas, apples, clementines, grapes, carrots) - Yogurt - Fruit cups   - Applesauce   - Pretzels - Nuts  

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