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How you behave can prepare your child for kindergarten
Your children are ready to enter kindergarten-but like all parents, you have your concerns. How can you make sure your children are ready for this milestone? By monitoring your own behavior, especially when you are around them. Children at a young age are particularly observant and malleable. They learn about the world around them through analysis, so your behavior will be the one they will model their own behavior on when they enter society. This is particularly important early on when children are just developing their Emotional Quotient (EQ) and communication skills. So how can you make sure they are ready for kindergarten? Say “Please” and “Thank You” It is your responsibility to show children good behavior, meaning they should be saying all the correct things at the appropriate times. When they ask for something, they should include “please.” After receiving something, they should say, “Thank you.” Other phrases could be “excuse me” and “bless you.” The more you use these phrases, the more your children will emulate this and learn when is the right time to use them. Express Your Feelings It is important for children to develop their communication skills. Otherwise, it is difficult for teachers to understand their needs. They may not be comfortable expressing themselves at first, so show them how it’s done! Use phrases starting with “I feel…” and “I think…” and add in a variety of adjectives, like sad, happy, confused, and hungry. This will make children more comfortable with sharing their feelings and thoughts with others, as well as help them recognize what certain feelings are. Recognize Others’ Feelings Children may have a difficult time recognizing other people’s facial expressions and empathizing with how they’re feeling. Their EQ is still in its early stages. Show them to observe and understand by making note of how others feel. If one child is frowning, you can point this out to your other child with, “I think your brother is sad because you won’t listen to his story.” These hints will give them better ideas on how to read other people and behave accordingly. Socialize With Others A big part of kindergarten is learning to socialize with other children and adults on a daily basis. This can be new and frightening for young children, but you can make it seem normal by socializing with others in a comfortable and friendly manner. Chat with neighbors for a few minutes instead of rushing by in determined silence, which can leave a negative impression on your children. They may choose to ignore others the very same way in kindergarten. Show that conversing with others can be natural, not scary. Share With Others Sharing can be a big issue with young children. However, parents can show that sharing is caring not only by enforcing this with their children but also showing through their own actions. Ask the other parent to use something, like the remote to watch TV, and then that parent can respond positively by saying, “Of course!” or respectfully by saying, “Do you mind waiting until this episode is over?” Set a great precedent. Read with Excitement Reading will be a big part of kindergarten. Children may feel uneasy or unready for reading aloud in a class full of peers, but parents can make reading fun! They can also prepare children for the more technical elements of reading aloud, like speaking in a clear, audible tone. They can achieve this by often reading aloud with their children and with enthusiasm. The positive reaction will rub off on their children who will exhibit the same energy in kindergarten. -- Of course, parents cannot be expected to be perfect, and neither can children. They can only do their best to enter society as positive participants! But if you follow the advice above, as well as giving them an academic head-start with JEI programs, your children will feel more ready for the exciting adventure that is kindergarten and beyond! To further develop your child’s education and EQ, find a center near you!
Back to school lunches without the hassle
School is just around the corner, and that means no more raiding the fridge for last-minute lunch ideas. Lunches need to be quick to assemble, nutritionally complete, and last sitting in a lunch bag for a couple of hours. This can be tough, meeting all three of the criteria mentioned above, but it is not an impossible task! This past summer we created a list of easy meal ideas for summer lunches. With back to school season fast approaching, parents not only have to worry about packing a quick, nutritious lunch but how that packed lunch is going to impact their child’s day. Often times, children indulge in what parents have packed for them during the regular lunch period. Other times, they drool over what their peers have been packed whether that’s because it looks, smells, or tastes more delicious then what was packed for them. Some times, they don’t eat their lunch at all because they are worrisome of what their peers may say once they open their lunch box. That is why it is important to emphasize planning lunches ahead of time or even having your child involved in the lunch-making process. By doing this, it ensures those lunches are doing exactly what they need to be doing: nurturing your child mid-way through that long, exhausting school day. To take away some of the school year preparation anxiety, we have gathered together some unique ways your child can enjoy their lunch without any lunch-time anxieties! Meal Prep - Turkey taco lunch bowl - Buffalo chicken meatball bento box - Build your own pizza - Meat and cheese pinwheels - PB&J triangles - Sandwich skewers - Tomato bruschetta 2 ways - Lettuce wrap box - Mediterranean box Prep for the Week - Egg salad - Tuna salad - Couscous salad - Banana bread - Energy balls - Pasta salad with fruit - Pesto pasta with tomatoes Night Before Snack Prep - Froyo fruit cups - Homemade chewy granola bars - Yogurt parfait box - Peanut butter protein box - Strawberry fruit rollers - Hard-boiled eggs - Sliced cucumber - Melons - Mangoes - Cheese and crackers No Prep Snacks - Cheese sticks - Fruits and vegetables (i.e. bananas, apples, clementines, grapes, carrots) - Yogurt - Fruit cups - Applesauce - Pretzels - Nuts
3 Ways to prepare for the stress of middle school
The transition from elementary school to middle school is a period of significant changes. In elementary school, their school schedule is managed for them. Now your child will have to maintain their own schedule, going from class to class and visiting their locker when they can. In addition to these changes, your child’s body is undergoing changes as well. With the onset of puberty, the hormones pumping through your child’s system brings about not only physical changes but emotional changes as well. Dealing with these sudden surges of strong emotion can be quite challenging. It’s even more challenging because this is a point in your child’s life when they begin to question authority. Failure to learn emotional management strategies can lead your child into trouble. Developing your child’s emotional maturity is the key to a smooth transition to middle school. Here are three skills you can teach your child to help them manage their emotions. These skills will serve them in middle school and beyond. 1. Recognizing Emotions The ability to name emotions your child is feeling will help them deal with their stress and emotions in a productive way. It is typical for many parents to focus on behavior over emotion; for example, they will react to their child’s slamming the door, or rolling their eyes, instead of what led to that action. A focus on behavior alone teaches your child to continue to redirect their feelings towards certain behaviors. Naming emotions is the first step for your child to recognize the conditions leading to a behavior or misbehavior. Once your child has identified the emotion, they can better think about and understand the behavior. We all have signs that our body uses to tell us that we have a strong emotion happening. Perhaps our shoulders get tense when we’re angry. Maybe our hands shake when we’re nervous. Learning to recognize these telltale signs of their emotions will teach your child to stay in control of their emotions. If your child has difficulty putting names to their emotions, this diagram can help them. Additionally, modeling this for your child could help them better understand the act of naming emotions. When you feel yourself having strong emotions, don’t shy away from talking about them with your child. Letting them know you are grieving, or apprehensive, or ecstatic, or stressed shows them that all people go through these emotions, and that is okay. 2. Meditating Mindfulness meditation is a skill that develops focus and thought management skills. Meditation helps you clear your mind by having you focus on the breath. Meditation will train your child to let go of distracting or stressful thoughts and help them get through some of these tougher moments. Meditation will train your child to recognize when they’re having distracting or stressful thoughts before they interfere with being present in the moment. In doing this, this will also help them maintain the focus needed for middle school. There are many apps like Calm and Headspace for guided meditation. These apps have pre-recorded meditation sessions aimed at clearing distracting thoughts and is easy to introduce to your preteen who is probably well-versed in technology. Meditation is a skill that takes practice; start with a short meditation, and have your child work their way up to longer sessions. This can is also a great activity to do together, as both you and your child will benefit. 3. Reflecting Once the emotion has passed, it’s important for them to come back to that moment and reflect on their emotional outburst and the emotions or stresses causing it. This means sitting with your child and asking them how they felt when they were overwhelmed with emotion. Punishment for emotional outbursts without reflection teaches your child to suppress their emotions and not address the actual issue. This will only lead to more emotional outbursts. Sometimes we can know in advance that an unavoidable situation will cause stress. Teaching your child to mentally prepare for these situations is a crucial part of developing their emotional maturity. Asking themselves questions such as “What should I do when I’m angry?” or “What behavior should I avoid?” will help your child to avoid bad behavior well before the moment when a stressful situation arises. Reflection is a skill that will develop self-awareness and emotional intelligence. -- As your children approach middle school or commence to a new grade, the teachers and staff will expect more maturity from your child. With these three skills, a little time, and attention, you can help teach your middle schooler to manage their emotions which is the first step in helping your child manage their behavior. At JEI, our intimate class sizes provide a setting to practice these emotional-management skills while getting a valuable supplementary education. To get started with JEI, find a center near you!